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I have spent over two decades in the hospitality industry turning frowns upside down. I really enjoy taking care of people and having the opportunity to be a part of their day, especially when they are having a rough time/day. My passion outside of work has almost always revolved around animal psychology and animal behavior, particularly with horses and dogs - recently including cats. I found myself being a ‘share-o-holic’ of the fascinating stuff I was learning … I would share principles, one-liners, quotes, analogies, and simulations from my animal teachings to pass along information to others in need of a bit of encouragement or support. To me, it was so much more than just learning to be good with animals. It was about never-ending self-improvement and understanding how to see things from another's perspective.  All in all, life seemed good, even though there was an occasional bump in the road.

I wouldn’t learn until later how much my animals meant to me and how much they had become my identity. My horse and dog both slipped away very suddenly, passing almost exactly a year apart. This left a hole in me that I tried to fill with work and bringing joy to others, because at the time, my job left no room to raise a new foal or puppy the way I wanted to.  I had to put my passion for animals on hold.

And then one day, I realized all this effort I was putting into making others happy was draining me of my own happiness. As so many of us experience, the sacrifices I once happily made for the job suddenly felt like an overwhelming cost or burden I could not afford to pay or carry any longer.   I had to choose... my happiness or the job.

I made the difficult decision to step away from hospitality because I was not happy with the direction my life, and everything in it, was heading.

So, I did what I thought was best for me: I quit my job, sold my house, and moved out of state to help a friend grow their business.  All decisions of which I had planned would leave time and space for me to get back into passions and hobbies I had put on hold, and then I would feel whole again.  

It felt great to be away from the roller coaster theme park called hospitality!  Just relax and have an easy day at work helping my friend, right? WRONG!

After the fog from the chaos and noise from the busy hospitality industry lifted, I soon learned that I had been suppressing and ignoring emotions from my past which was causing me to be wound up tighter than I had ever imagined.  These were not fun times for me, nor for the people closest and dearest to me.  I had become the opposite of what I wanted to project to the world and had begun living what felt like a nightmare that repeated daily.

Just as I'm becoming aware of all of these bottled up emotions in me, my father became extremely ill and passed very suddenly.  While going through his estate, I found many notebooks and journals that spoke about him being in an extremely depressed and isolated space/state of mid - mentally, emotionally, and physically.  This was all very shocking to me because he had not mentioned this to me when we spoke on the phone over previous years.  Or more likely, I was either not listening or being dismissive of the signs.  Either way, it was another unexpected blow that brought up even more suppressed and ignored feelings.

I knew something had to change in me in a drastic way… and quickly!  I remembered having great success over the past few years when applying some of Marisa Peer’s suggestions from interviews and tutorials I had seen online, so I decided to start there.  I sought help from an RTT® professional.  It was as if the universe had been waiting for me to find this path because almost immediately, help was provided, the answers I needed were found, and a new path was laid out before me – personally, as well as professionally. 

I originally set out to become free from my own challenges and achieve my own goals.  What occurred was another lesson in never-ending self-improvement and mental health awareness.  All that I have learned along the way has reignited a passion for teaching and empowering others to share in this experience.  You, too, can overcome challenges in your life and achieve your desired goals.

Now that I have RTT® in my life, I am able to affect my effects and empower you to Affect Your Effects in a profound, phenomenally liberating way.